See im getting ready to go to high school and i dont like my social status. I've been hanging out with the same group of people since 3rd grade and now i want a change. I had a friend that i used to hang out with but now she has changed her social status and hangs out with the real popular people. Don't tell me that i should just be myself because i dont want that. I want to be popular. I've been reading books that have popular people as the main character. Any one here that conseideres themselves popular that could share their wisdom?

don't hang out with new people just because you want to be "popular".
if you like the people in that group, i say try to be friends with them. talk to them. laugh at the things they say if you think they're funny.
but, if you're just trying to be friends with them so you'll be "popular", then i say don't. if you like the friends you're hanging out with now, stay friends with them. nothing's wrong with making new friends, but for the sake of being "popular", i say that's just dumb.

who care's about your social status. as long as you're happy with the friends you have, and you can trust them and rely on them about anything that's all that matters. you need friends that you can count on, not ones that are "popular"

but i just dont want to be friends with the people that i am with now. I want a variety of friends.

as long as you can count on the friends you have, that's all that matters.

the "popular" people at my school just talk behind their "friends" backs all the time. do you really want to be talked about behind your back?

this is pathetic.
don't be friends with someone just because they're popular, just because they can get you invited to "cool" parties, just because they can make you get into the "popular" group.
be happy with who you are, with who your friends are, or just shut up.

Don't set out to just be friends with 'popular kids'. I don't see what's so big about hanging out with them.
Almost all of my friends are 'popular' & i'll be the fi rst to admit i've changed, & not so much for the better.
They constantly talk about each other & fight a lot. Sure, you want to make new friends but don't just set out for one group of people.
No one likes someone being up their ass & obsessed with someone wanting to hang out with them. That isn't how you make friends, sorry.

popularity in high school means nothing. as soon you graduate it all goes out the door. theres no such thing as the "popular" group in college. in college everyones friends with everyone and theres no real cliques. so just learn how to be a good friend, build character, actually LEARN in school. dont spend all your time caring about your social status. who gives a fuck. it wont matter in 3 years anyways.

You want to hang with the popular crowd?

You shallow minded, pathetic, weak, horrible individual. You don't deserve to have any friends at all.

Being popular,
Isn't going to do anything.
Talk to more people.
Social stadius?
Are you bascially saying you want new friends?

Being popular isn't really that much fun. I was popular for 3 years, and I got bored really easily. You can't be nice to some people, you have to walk around with a "I don't like you..." attitude, toward everyone. When you are in high school, just be yourself. You may not want to be your self, but people don't like someone who changes because of who they want to be.

Actually, at my school there isn't really 'popular' people. There was in middle school but now, no one really cares. There is just groups of people.

You want to be friends with popular people talk to them. If they don't like you, they don't like you. Move on.

ya i mean talk to them and if they dont like you then just get over it

The original post is *beep* DISGUSTING.
But i think everyone has already said what needs to be said, nicely.
Just thought i'd tell you.

Like, OMG, this poster is like soo right. Why would you want to have friends who like you, care about you and have simliar interests when you can be Popular? I mean, that's how you feel right? Status is everything, and there is no such thing as life after highschool, obviously.

Your friends don't deserve such a shallow bitch as a friend. Stop hanging around them if you feel it'll get you more status, but someone like you will have trouble making new friends if that's how you really feel.

This thread is taking the piss right? RIGHT?

Honestly the 'popular' people aren't the type of people you want to be friends with. You'll end up with no friends in the end. You don't sound like a very good friend yourself if you want to ditch people you've known for so long. Social status, really, who cares?

If you're the sort of person who cares more about the social status of the people you associate than with them themselves, you're not the sort of person who's going to have many meaningful relationships with ANYONE. That's the person you want to be, that's your problem. But you'll regret it.

Yeah, people seriously need to stop generalising. Just because someone's popular doesn't mean that they're shallow and superficial automatically. But if you only want to be friends with someone because of their status, that's disgusting and shallow.

Popularity depends a lot on where you live as well. At my school if you live on the lake in the richer homes you are automatically dubbed popular(mainly because they have the houses to throw the parties at.) Now I'm not saying there are a few mixed in there that aren't, it's just generally that way.(Yes, I realize I just made a generalization, however, it's a generalization for my area.) However, Christi brings up a valid point, I have many friends and I didn't get them by just sitting around wishing I was popular. You have to get out there and want to meet new people to make new friends, not for the status it may bring.

popular has a lot to do with your socio-economic status.

im relatively popular, but in high school i wasnt apart of the 'in-crowd' simply because my family didnt originate from the area and/or own any local businesses.

I agree with Julia that this depends on where you live.
I was popular as well as part of the "in crowd" and I was relatively poor (parents barely making it paycheck to paycheck and deep in debt - I'm very happy my fiance and I aren't in this situation the way they were.). I think that as I said, too many people don't even try to get to know other people. I in no way look or even seem like the type of person (if you knew me IRL) to be popular or part of the "in crowd" but I am and always have been. Well, sans elementary school where I was the "loser" of the school that no one liked except the one other poor girl.

why would being popular make you happy?
the most 'popular' girl in my school is constantly in the toilets crying because she doesn't think she has any real friends. ignoring the fact that the reason is because she's a *beep*, she often hates school - dispite being 'popular'.
having real friends is so much better than being popular, don't you think?
having new friends is always fun, but don't ditch the 'golden oldies'. you never know when you might need them.

That said, if you'd happily throw away your friends in favour of social status, they really can't be that important to you, so why hang around with them? Is the reason because you don't feel you have anyone else? I bet they'd be overjoyed to know that's how you feel about them.

Why does everyone make the "popualar" people out to be so stereo typical? Just because they're popular they have to be stuck-up and bitchy? They can't have real friends?

I live in Southern California, the border of L.A. County and Orange County (O.C.) to be exact, as cliche as it gets. And We don't even have "popular" kids at our school!

QUOTE (babigoodgrl @ Apr 28 2007, 01:35 PM)

but i just dont want to be friends with the people that i am with now. I want a variety of friends.

What's wrong with you? You're friends are too good for you. You're going to get no where with that attitude. Just be yourself. If you're going to try to change just to conform with the "popular" group, you're going to end up trying way too hard. You'll end up looking like more of an idiot than you do now.

Sorry for the poor sentence structures, I'm a bit tired.

Why have friends that care about you and like spending time with you when you can have friends that make you look good? Obviously, that's all she really cares about. I pity her friends.

I don't really see the appeal in being popular. I had a few good friends in high school, and I'll always treasure that special bond. My school was different(all girls private one) so I don't know if we were "popular" or not... but all I know is I was surrounded by a group of girls that were golden.

popular means you're well liked by the people you're around. if your friends like you you're popular. i hate it when people are like "I wanna be popular blah blah blah blah"

well if your going to try and be popular, make sure you arent annoying or clingy. girls here are like that and it's so annoying. i mean..the girls i'm 'friends' with like butt in on conversations bc they're overhearing and think their opinion is wanted. and don't like try and get yourself invited to things. if they like you --you'll be invited.

you shouldn't try and be friends with popular ppl. you should like ppl for who they are. being popular isn't all its made up to be, trust me.

well i have to say right off that everyone has someone who wont like them and look up popular it means to be in power and to rule. okay look at the popular people in your school. Alot of them at mine are very fake and i still hang out with some of htem but not all of them just it doesnt matter who the people that you hang out with are its that they except you for well. you

im so sick of people who think they are better than everyone else look up preps or popular it means to rule and dont let them rule you are popular with your friends thats all that matters

uh, I'm going to have to take the side of Suzy and Christi on this one...
Correct me if I'm wrong but you just call them popular coz they're a big group of kids who always are able to call each other to hang and they dress similarly and everyone just automatically follows them because everybody knows them right?

I don't really see anything wrong because the teens at my school that're quote "popular" really aren't. Everybody just happens to know their name. They are really kinda unfortunate to have the label of popular.

I think if you want to be their friend okay. Start talking to them, you know, try and get to know them a little better.
Just remember that not all groups that are popular are evil. I think people tend to jump on your crap when you use the term Popular because they automatically think of a group of superficial blonde bimbos that stomp all over the school.
HELLO GUYS we are talking about real life here, not The Hills or whatever the fck that show is... maybe that's a bad example..but you get the idea. These popular kids of yours babigoodgrl, may or may not like you, but if you act HUMAN around them and show them that your not labelling them like many of the people in this post they could turn out to add to the variety of friends you have.
Oh, before I forget I might as well mention that if you suddenly just STOP talking to your old friends altogether they will probably hate you or severly dislike you for the rest of your life. Just remember, popular kids are the ones who tend to have friends EVERYWHERE, so be cool to everyone.
This is a pretty...what's the word I'm looking for? Juvinile maybe? topic, I do have to say. If you really cared about being popular, you would just treat them as anybody else you want to be friends with. They don't deserve any special treatment.

If you try to act all popular, the popular kids are going to see right through you and won't want anything to do with them. If you want to expand your horizons, try talking to someone from the popular group during a class you have together. Start making new friends one at a time, don't expect to bond with a whole new group at once.

Meh, the topic is dead, but people are discussing it again, so all is good. So sayeth the mod cat.

I Was like you when i started out. But, when i got there, it wasnt as intimidating as i thought. you make new freinds really quickly, and stay in touch with the old ones. but dont go wanting to be freinds with everyone just because you want a high social status or to be "popular"..

The Only People Who like The 'Cool' Kids Are Themselves.

*headdesk*
Remember that thing I said about how if you were going to bump an old topic, in this case, a two month old topic, bump it with something relevant. USE MORE WORDS. And aside from that, you're generalising. Sometimes, the "cool kids" are actually nice.

I used to think that all of the popular girls were just slutty and stuck up. most of them in my school are, but some of them are actually nice. It took me quite a while to realize that not all of them are like that. Ive talked to a few of them, and im actually friends with a couple. lol, but still like four of the popular girls in our school are pregnant. but that doesnt really say anything, because i think we have like ten total pregnant people in our school

hun you shouldn't care about your social status because to become "popular" you have to take risks. lots of them. you just don't become popular in a day. "popular" people are soo overrated. they think they are all hot stuff. lol and in my school i made mostly everyone relize that. i got really pissed at one for giving me a dirty look and then talking *beep* about me so i went up to her and spoke my mind and well i kinda busted her face. lol but anyways yeah hun i don't think you want to be "popular" because when you popular people just hate you more. they just think your really annoyin and dumb. just be yourself speak your mind and keep your head high and just dont let the other "popular" people bring you down because their just jealous! lol

youuu have a lot ot learn about life. you're never going to enjoy yourself if you aren't with your friends, and you say you read a lot about popularity in books? it may look nice, but its just that, a book, a story, made up by someone, and i'm sure your popular life isnt as glamorous as you think its going ot be. there are no popular kids at my school, only groups of friends, and thats ok. just, i know you dont wanna hear it, but be who you are, you'll enjoy yourself more

omg-i so luv how u just put this--this is soo true-i hate "popular" girls and guys--its so overated at times.ya know

Completely pointless post, please dont bump old topics, or if you are, atleast make it worth bumping.

Wow. You've had the same friends since 3rd grade and your talking about them like this? Like they aren't good enough for you? You really don't deserve to have any friends.

good for you, that you beat a girl up. sweet.
anyhow. popular people aren't always overrated. at my school, it's not like the movies. where the popular girl is a bitch to everyone. that's not how it is. maybe at YOUR school, but not at mine. so they all don't think they're hot stuff. one of my best friends is super popular, but she still doesn't think she's hot stuff. yeah, she thinks she's pretty. but she has those days when she just thinks she looks like hell.
& maybe you hate the popular people, but not everyone does. people think all the popular kids are annoying & dumb? really? well, you act like you're not popular at your school, but i still think you're annoying & dumb. some people are annoying & dumb, but they don't have to be popular. you're stereotyping like it's your job & it's ANNOYING & DUMB.

Not going to lie, I completely agree with Emma.

u should stick with ur friends that really care about u. i no it's hard not to want 2 be like the popular kids, but if u do. ur going to be missing out on a bunch of fun stuff that you'll enjoy doing with your real friends. u should check out this book, and don't judge it by it's title. it's actually really meaningful. it's called "how to be popular" and it's by meg cabot.

Friends come and go, but family is forever. I have lots of friends, but not many I would call my friends.....know what I mean? There are only a few that really care about me and I care about them. I think of them as my family, and rest....well....I'll enjoy the time I have with them but they aren't going to make or break my day! No use worrying about people who aren't worried about me.

i have always been in the middle...known but not too well known...but not invisible.......
being in the middle works best. when your very popular you start doing things to be cool, because its what everyone else does, and you start to lose yourself. once high school is over. none of that matters and everyone has a fresh start so therefore being super popular in high school doesn't matter either. but you always want people to a least recognize you. being nameless, or faceless means that you just need to talk to people more. trust those who are on top eventually fall to the bottom. you pick what or when your on top moment will be.

popularity is overrateddd

this is pretty dumb u can hang out with those friends and new ones its always good to make new friends but dont ditch ur old ones thats just dumb, and pathetic rele!